Communicating for Healthier Relationships

To which extent do we listen while communicating with others? ‘Seek first to understand then to be understood’ is the fifth habit of highly effective people as presented in Stephen R. Covey’s best selling book. He explained how we need first to listen, to check our understanding and then explain ourselves. All for the best of the relationship. This one of the habits of the public victory. Hence, he who seeks first to understand will become a victor.




How Poor Our Relationships Are?

“All relationship problems stem from poor communication”. This quote was the trigger for this series of videos my sister and me are presenting on Communication. As a Mars and Venus Coach, my sister Cherry Refaat shares from her experience with her clients and from her personal experience her insights about the topic. In this episode (#1) we tackled the following:
– What’s the meaning of communication
– The different types of connections through communication
– Whether it’s a skill or a gift
– How can we improve our communication
– Why do we need to communicate
– The challenges we face while communicating

Awareness is the key to any progress on any level. How good are we as communicators? And how is our communication affecting our relationships?



Planning to Nurture the 4 Dimensions

Planning for a happy vacation while having the 7th habit of highly effective people in mind made all the difference in my life and my children’s life. Since we learned about the 4 dimensions from Stephen R. Covey’s best selling book, we focused on planning balanced vacations in which we nurtured our human parts; the heart, the mind, the body and the soul.

Relaxing Isn’t Enough

He who fails to plan plans to fail. This was a quote Ive read years ago and I loved it. When it comes to planning many people feel overwhelmed and resist the idea from the first place. ‘Planning vacations’ was an unfamiliar concept among my circles of family and friends. “We just want to rest and detach from the busy-demanding life we’re living” is the most common statement I receive.

Yes, it’s true that we’re living over-demanding lives and for this particular reason we ought to plan our vacations in a way that would guarantee that we return from the vacation relaxed and fuelled with energy, positivity and happiness. To relax isn’t enough, we need to recharge. And for this we need to plan.


No Is Actually a Yes!

One of the great strategies to effectively manage our time is to practice saying ‘No’. When we say ‘No” we actually say ‘Yes”. When we say no to urgent and/or unimportant things or tasks we actually say yes to the most significant and meaningful ones.
No is a complete sentence, we don’t need to defend or explain ourselves. We just need to identify our priorities and stay focused on what matters the most.

The Illusion of ‘I don’t have time”

We all have time, enough time, to do what we wish to do. I strongly believe in this. They key is to be crystal clear at first about what we wish to do and then to set it as a priority. Reflecting on our days, weeks and months, we will definitely find slots of time that are not well invested. Time we spend to commute from home to work and vice versa, time we spend getting ready for work or outings, time we spend preparing meals, time we spend waiting at medical clinics,..etc. Identifying the slots of time we don’t truly invest well is a corner stone in managing our time and leading our lives. Then comes the step of better investing these slots whether by listening to e-books, music, doing breathing exercises, repeating mantras. The secret is to identify the things we have no time for and then schedule them during the slots of wasted time.

It’s not about ‘having’ time, it’s about ‘making’ time.” — Rachael Bermingham

Why Blocking Time Is Mandatory?

One of the secrets of time management is blocking times for the things we do on regular basis. This helps us identify the slots of time remaining and hence better use them. Reflecting on our time blocks in the frame of the various roles we’re playing in life enlightens us and enables us to better organise our time around our priorities.

Are You An Urgency Addict?

If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail!” Benjamin Franklin explained. In order to plan we need to have a wider perspective than the daily to-do list which belongs to the ‘Urgency Addicts‘. Stephen R. Covey in his ‘First Things First‘ book introduced the perspective of the week. He clarified how the unit of the day is too short and how people ought to organise their weeks considering that the unit of time is neither the hour nor the day but the week.
In this video I share an example on how to plan our weeks referring to our roles in life and focusing on the big rocks; our top priorities.