I must go to work even if I’m sick. I must study even if I’m extremely exhausted. I must take my kids to the training even if my friends are hanging out and I wish to join them.
‘I must’ is one of the statements my clients frequently use. Working on my listening skills as a Meta-Coach, I became more attentive to their ‘Meta-programs’ or easier to call it their ‘Thinking patterns’.
Meta-Programs are perceptual lenses people use to make sense of their world. In most cases these meta-programs filter people’s lives and disable them from progressing. Meta-Coaches work on raising the clients’ awareness about the way they filter their lives and facilitate for them the expansion of their meta-programs.
‘I must’ is only one example from 60 meta-programs we studied as coaches. I used it to clarify our distorted way to see the world and lead our lives. When asked about the reference of ‘I must’, the clients, in most cases, remain clueless. Though unable to identify why they see it as a ‘must’, they find it hard to change this necessity.
Your Lenses, Your world
What kind of lenses are we wearing? And to which extent does our way of thinking filter our world? Are we perfectionists operating from an ‘either or’ meta-program (either 100% or nothing)? Are we competitive freaks who can’t stand anyone wining but ourselves and live by the rule of ‘in order to win others must lose’?
In order to experience a better life we need to change, and the first fundamental step in change is becoming aware of our lenses and selecting the ones that would lead us to the life of our dreams.
“Life is based on perception. Perception is based on opinion. Opinion is based on thought. Thought comes from the mind. Change your mind, change your life.”
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