His name is Sherif. The husband of one of my main characters in Fabulous Veils. A butterfly, she believed she was till they met. She was out going, happy, social, elegant and attractive. Veiled with love, she practiced submission gradually till she transformed. Pleasing her lover was her intention. And it was her curse.
No matter how many years or decades passed, he requested her to stay the same. Locked up. Imprisoned in the past. Despite that change is a natural law, Sherif expected and ordered Gameela to remain the same; behaving and acting the same way. She was locked up under the name love.
How many people are locked up there, in the compartment called the ‘past’? How many of us are locked up under the fabulous veil of love? “You changed,” when said to you by someone close, do you consider it a compliment or an accusation?
Gail Sheehy, American author, journalist, and lecturer claimed that: “If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living.” Which means by simple logic that being locked up in the past like Gameela is not living at all.
To live is to change, to grow, to evolve, to flourish and blossom. To become wiser, deeper and more profound. To become stronger, powerful and more significant. And the same goes the other way, to stay unchangeable is to diminish, to shrink, to fade, to become shallower and more superficial over time.
Is there anyone locking you up in the past? Requesting you to do the same things, act the same way or adopt the same thoughts? Be it a parent, a boss or a lover it doesn’t matter. What matters is you. Refuse to stay locked up. Liberate yourself. Unchain it and evolve. “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but building the new,” Socrates.