‘Children are difficult and exhausting’ and ‘Teenagers are stubborn and rebellious’ are two statements I hear frequently from parents. Mothers often complain from their sons and daughters for disobeying, forgetting the rules or rejecting them. Parents, though their main concern is the well being of their apple pies yet many of them reach walls of bricks while trying to get their children to obey.
Modelling. Nine letters which require daily practice and continuous effort is the secret as stated by the great Covey in his 7 habits book. Modelling is the root for any family and children learn a lot more by observing instead of being preached.
One of my reasons behind writing my novel was my children. I wanted them to believe in themselves and their dreams. I wanted them to see how a person can live with passion on daily basis even if she was a full time employee and already very occupied. I wanted them to know that excuses to play small are endless. I wanted them to learn how we have the power to stretch our abilities and elevate our lives at any age. I wanted them to understand that age is just a number and that one can pursue his dream at any time. I wanted them to believe that dreams come true if we put our hearts in them.
On her return from a camp months ago, my daughter handed me a chart she filled in the camp. Her answer on the first question of ‘naming a person who made a positive difference in your life’ watered my eyes and filled my heart with joy. “My mother because of her passion. And how she knows very well how to pursue and achieve her dreams.”
“Your kids watch you for a living. It’s their job; it’s what they do. That’s why it’s so important to try your best to be a good role model.” James Lehman