How frequent do you glance at the mirror? Once per day? Twice? What do you stare at? Your hair style, your face, Your curves, your clothes? How often do you look at the mirror to examine the status of the person you’re holding within? Long time ago I noticed that I avoided my own eye contact. Trying to look at myself in the eye was so annoying, hearing voices of blame, of accusations and of dislikes. Day after day I started to look at myself in the mirror and to listen to the voices and converse with them. I invited them to decent talks with specific evidences, refusing insults, humiliation and mockeries.
Making peace with myself was a tough journey, it required from me hours of journaling, many sessions with my Counselor in addition to practicing meditation and mindfulness.
Now, when I look at myself at the mirror I still hear voices, words of praise and encouragement. I hear cheers. I no longer hide from myself. I embrace it with grace and love.
Did have the courage to grab the dream that picked you?
Is there a certain dream that keeps haunting you? Something that keeps nagging you to do it? An idea that keeps echoing in your mind? Months ago I was asked about the thing I would regret the most on my death bed, not something I had done, yet on the opposite; something I hadn’t, a dream I hadn’t pursued. Writing a novel was my answer. Since I was a child I loved reading, I enjoyed books and felt thrilled in bookstores. Always thinking belittle of myself as a writer, I never had the courage to give it a try. Who am I to write a NOVEL? I used to tell myself. What do I know about writing styles, about characters development and all these stuff. Every time this dream chased me I ran away, disciplining myself to be realistic. Till I was asked this question of the thing I would regret not doing.
Reflecting on this while writing the last pages of my first novel I felt happy, alive and proud. I felt courageous for standing up for my childhood dream and for pursuing it with all my might.
Do you have a dream that keeps calling you? What would you regret not doing while taking your last breath on earth? What’s holding you back? An incredible journey is waiting for you, sum up your courage and conquer your fear. Shape your dream and indulge in a life of passion. It’s never too late and time doesn’t wait.
Are we happy? Do we truly understand what happiness is? Is there a way to increase our happiness?I just attended a workshop in which I learned a lot more about happiness. While some concepts I had learned before, others were brand new to my ears. ‘The happiness set point’ was one of the new ideas I encountered. It explained that each person has a personal level of happiness, like the metabolic rate, which is generally stable at a certain level. This set point might get temporarily affected with some external events or circumstances. We buy a new car we feel happier yet after a while our happiness level gets back to its natural set point. We spend some time with friends, and same happens. An event or incident annoys us, our happiness decreases then it goes back to its set point after awhile. Given the same example of metabolism, we were taught that this set point can be elevated by practice, the way exercises and workouts increase our metabolism. The instructor invited us to practice being happy, clarifying that although fifty percent of our happiness is genetic and ten percent is related to our circumstances yet a bunch of forty percent of our happiness totally depends on us, our attitudes, our actions and our routines. She gave us several techniques to practice being happy, one of them was identifying the things that expand our happiness and the things that contract it, then to start building some routines around the things that expand our happiness and eliminate as much as we can the things that contract it.
Happiness is not an emotion, it’s a psychological state that depends on our habits not our circumstances. What practices can you do to become happier?